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Effects of divorce on children



Divorce can be a really world shattering event for children. Imagine how hard it is for the parents to cope after so many years of living together, and then think about how it is just as hard for children to get used to the shook lifestyle that they are now living. 

Did you know that there is a specific classroom setting for students whose parents have divorced?We hear so many studies of the effect that divorced parents have on children, and it seems only right that we train our children how to deal with it. 
Children can learn how to cope with the mixed up life, and they can learn terms and words such as "joint-custody" etc...  It is also a great experience for children to talk with other kids and understand that it's not a weird event that occured in their lives. It is a lot more common than we think. In fact, it's very sad to think of how common it is.
While all of this might seem like I good idea for the children, I was questioning whether it’s a good thing that we dwell on the fact that their parents are divorced, or if we acknowledge it and then try to move on. I do think it’s important that children understand what is happening, but if we spend so much of their life talking about it, they may start to see them as incapable of many things because their parents are divorced. I believe that we are capable of doing whatever we put our minds to.
Just a little food for thought. Divorce can affect so many people, and I am grateful that there are teachers out there who would like to teach our children more about it, so they can understand it. But maybe, just maybe, it's best not to dwell on the misery of divorce, and perhaps move along and focus on the good that can happen in child's life when they believe in reaching their full potential no matter the roadblock. 


I love the quote by President Kimball when he says, "only those who believe deeply and actively in the family will be able to preserve their families in the midst of the gathering evil around us.”


As we continue advocating for the family, we will be able to preserve the family life that God intended for us to have.

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