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Turning toward one another

What a great opportunity it is for us as humans to be able to direct our attention on those around us to be able to increase both of our levels of happiness and further our progression.
As I sit here writing this, I’m watching a father and his baby. The father is trying to stay engaged in his class as he stands outside of it listening while holding his wiggly baby. The baby in a way is “bidding” for the attention of his father, and his father is responding in a positive way. Caring for him, yet doing his best to also stay engaged in the necessities of life.
This can be similar and true in our adult relationships. Whether it be with a spouse or with a best friend or roommate. There are going to be times when they “bid” for attention. It may not be in our face, but if we are aware, we will recognize times when we can better “turn towards one another.”
Think of the last time you stopped to help someone in need. It could have been your spouse as you came home from a long day at school or work, and they were cooking a meal. Or maybe it was your roommate who had a long day, and you took a break from your homework to talk and catch up with them. There are many opportunities throughout the day for stopping what we are doing to help someone else. Have you noticed that when you take the time to help, you are also helping and increasing the satisfaction within your relationship? 
There is a short and sweet example of caring for our spouses. Martha Arnell shared her experience by saying that she does things with her husband that she wouldn't necessarily say she enjoyed. However, because she makes the sacrifice and does these things like camping and hunting with her husband, she feels a closer connection with him. In return, her husband is more likely to do things that she would enjoy, and shape their lifestyle in a way that they are both being fulfilled. This principle rings true to me because I know that we are better able to connect with someone when we take time to see things from their perspective, and even do things that they enjoy doing.
I have a belief that the satisfaction within a marriage can be determined on the trust and respect that is found within the marriage. Trust and respect are better developed as the couple learns how to turn toward one another.
How and when will you better turn toward someone that you care for?




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