I have couples
in my life that I look up to because of their sweet relationships with one
another. Think about it, aren’t there those people in your lives who you just
admire and long to have a relationship such as there?
I can tell you
one thing. They most likely had a bond before they got married. They were each
others friends, and now they are the best of friends continuiong to overcome
the natural man such as the scripture in Mosiah 3:19 mentions.
“For he natural man is an enemy to God, and has been
from the fall of Adam, and will be, forever and ever, unless he yields to the
enticings of the Holy Spirit , and putteth off the natural man and becometh a
saint through the atonement of Christ the Lord, and becometh as a child
In order to maintain
those healthy relationships with out spouses, and need to treat them as our
best friend and someone we desire to have by our side.
Dr. John Gottman, in his book “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work,”says
this about the opposite of this type of relationship:
“Some people leave a marriage literally, by divorcing. Others do
so by staying together but leading parallel lives. Whatever the route, there
are four final stages that signal the death knell of a relationship. (1) The
couple see their marital problems as severe. (2) Talking things over seems
useless. Partners try to solve problems on their own. (3) The couple lead
parallel lives. (4) Loneliness sets in” (50).
These are things we need to
stay away from in order to have a healthy marriage.
According to Gottman, we need
to…
·
Talk
about our feelings with “I statements” and express our needs positively
·
Treat
one another with respect and build a culture of appreciation in our
relationship
·
Accept
responsibility
·
And
break for 20 minutes, calm down, and return to the conversation
I challenge you this week
to use one of these strategies on one of your conversations this week and see
the difference it can make.
Here's one of my favorite videos about the expression of love!
https://www.mormonchannel.org/watch/series/mormon-messages/expressions-of-love-2
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